the good, the bad, and the ugly...

I have prided myself in being a blogger who rarely focuses on the negative things in life, in fact, I don't believe I've had a single post yet with even a twinge of negativity. Unfortunately that track record has to end today. I have been duped. Scammed. Tricked. And I'm a little embarrassed by it. I went back and forth on whether I wanted to share this information and then on how much information I wanted to share. But after talking to a few blogger friends I realized I needed to share my story so that you guys hopefully don't fall for the same thing I did.

Over a month ago I received this message via Etsy from an Etsian named "foreverfeminineshop"


My first clue should have been this message and how it was written. You can tell by the way it is written that she was going through Etsy finding shops she liked and copy and pasted the same message to multiple shops and just changed the intro.

After I read it I was a little suspicious but this was when I only had about 50 followers so I was intrigued by the fact that she had 200 followers so I went to her blog to investigate. Sure enough, just as she said, she had 200+ followers and I noticed that she had done a few "reviews" in the past so I figured it was a decent idea.  She seemed really young as well and her blog seemed a tad novice but after talking to Mike [although this was only through text and he didn't read the message or see her blog] I decided to go through with it. You can view her blog here.

I sent her a set of my pink rosette bobby pins as well as a matching set of earrings. In total, the value of what I sent was $12 not including shipping that I also paid for.


I made sure to stay in contact with her throughout the whole process. She received my package over a month ago and said she was going to do the review "soon". I kept going back to her blog to see if she had done the review and just hadn't emailed me back but she hadn't. She was blogging as usual so I knew she wasn't out of town or anything. I sent an email asking if she had made any progress about 2 weeks ago and never heard from her after that. I sent another email, still being very kind and professional, which she didn't respond to and finally, I sent one last warning email this past Monday. In the email I was firm, but professional and told her if she did not do the review by Friday I would be forced to inform my readers of what had happened so that they wouldn't fall victim to the same thing. I still haven't heard from her so here I am. Reluctantly having to tell everyone my story.

I hope this has never happened to anyone else but I'm afraid it might be more common that I thought. Luckily, the products that I sent weren't very expensive but it's the fact that i put my hard work an time into everything I make and she got that for free.

So, by posting about this, my hope is that no one falls for this girls scam anymore or anyone elses scams for that matter. In no way do I want to bad-mouth anyone. I am just giving you the information of what happened to let you make your own opinions of the situation. Please be careful about who you let review your products. I will now be much more careful about this type of thing. For now, I will be sending Camile [the scammer] a PayPal request for my products although I know it will be ignored just like my past 4 emails. Oh well. Live and learn, right?

17 comments

  1. Wow, thats terrible! I cant believe some people would be so crappy to do such a thing! Letting other people know what happened its a great thing to do so others don't fall victim as well!

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  2. I'm so sorry this happened to you :( But your last sentence was true blue, "live and learn". I would be relentless in my pursuit to get back the money your piece was worth. Good Luck to you! 

    P.S. you're blog is just lovely! :)

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  3. Ugh. I can't stand it when generous people are taken advantage of! Thank you for sharing, though it was difficult. I love love love your blog.

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  4. That's terrible. So sorry to hear this :( crafty bloggers should be supporting each other and being nice! Not stealing their hard work.

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  5. I'm so sorry this happened to you! There are bad people everywhere! But thank you so much for sharing with the rest of us.

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  6. I am so sorry you experienced this! You have a wonderful blog that I enjoy reading and it really bums me out that this happened! Thanks for sharing (and you have no reason to feel embarrassed! It could have happened to any of us.)

    I looked through her blog, I was surprised to find that it was a modesty blog and deeply religious. I guess I still thought people practiced what they preached. She should really be ashamed of herself.

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  7. That really sux :(
    So sorry to hear this...
    Thanks for sharing with us though and you shouldn't be embarrassed because it was her that took advantage of you, I usually like to have faith in people unless they prove they don't deserve it, I think it's better than being skeptical and suspicious about everyone.. but I guess there are a lot of people out there who don't deserve this common courtesy..
    I'm a firm believer in Karma, and what goes around comes around (10 fold).. if you think of it as a "good deed" you did for someone, then it means something good is going to come back to you, even bigger and better! :)

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  8. i'm glad you posted this. I'm so sorry it happened to you but we have this in common we trust people and honestly I had trouble realizing that not everyone has good intentions. I didn't even want to click on her link to give her view counts she horrible and you deserve to get paid for your hard work...enough said.!

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  9. Im so sorry Allison. This is horrible! Thanks for sharing this unpleasant and upsetting experience. I can see how you would have thought her request valid, her blog seems so. I think you did right thing, and I hope she gets what she deserves.

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  10. What a crappy thing to happen to you!! Ugh that is so diappointing. It is very sweet of you to share your experience so that others can learn from it.

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  11. Ugh - that sucks! Unfortunately, I think this happens a *lot*, though, especially through Etsy. :( 'Reviews' are iffy, in general - I'm not sure if I like them! lol. It might be worth it if the blog has a *ton* of followers, but most often it's not.

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  12. That really sucks! I agree, you should share as other people may fall for this too
    x

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  13. I have been approached like this on several occasions by people and I always say no. I don't really trust them, if it's only s message through Etsy. That is just so annoying that she would do that!! She is stealing and I hope she sees this post and feels bad for what she did. But at least you realized not to do it again.

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  14. i am so sorry this happened to you! at least it was not a big investment {i know that is not the point} i can not stand dishonest people!

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  15. So sorry that happened to you, lady! That really sucks. :[ But thanks for being so open about it. It's good for everyone to know.

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  16. Oh no!!! Unbelievable! Thank you so much for sharing!!! I can not believe the audacity of her going through with this! What an ugly person!
    I always get suspicious when someone I don't know approaches me and none of the blogs I follow can be found on that blog...
    I hope you can somehow settle this with her...such a scam!
    Happy Saturday!
    Hugs xxx

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  17. Thanks for sharing. I know it was probably a tad embarrassing but you are so brave! It is a shame that someone would not only deceive you but at the same time put a negative haze over barters that can be helpful to start up bloggers. I hope you get a chance in the future to promote your products in a similar way without any more B.S.

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-Allison