Reclaiming Our Wedding

 photo taken by Melanie Reller

With all of the beautiful weddings shown throughout the blogosphere it's sometimes easy to forget how intimate and personal a wedding is meant to be. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the decorations, the seating charts, and the favors that you forget that this day is about one thing and one thing alone; you and your special someone.

I'm guilty of this. I love planning parties and events and I saw this wedding as the biggest party of all. I was so excited to start decorating and designing invites that I'm a little ashamed to say I forgot what a wedding was all about. Obviously, I want to spend the rest of my life with Mike and no wedding, no matter how big or small, would change that. But the stress was getting to me.

We wanted a small wedding, but the guest list just seemed to keep getting bigger every week. Still at only 100 people, it was like "well, if we invite this person, we should invite this person." And even with a really tight budget, money was starting to stress me out too. We just didn't feel comfortable starting a marriage with a $5,000 wedding when we could put that money towards a future home... or a little fur baby ;-)

It all started with a joke. I mentioned to Mike, "Why don't we just elope?". I wasn't really serious, or at least I didn't think I was. Then we started thinking. How did we envision getting married? My dream was always to get married in the outdoors that we love so much. But with 100 people, chancing rain in Ohio was just not a good idea. I, on the other hand, could care less if it rains on my wedding day. I'll throw on my boots and tramp around in puddles for all I care.

So that's when it hit us. We are reclaiming our wedding. We are canceling all plans thus far and now planning on a ceremony with just our parents, brothers, and grandparents followed by a small celebration with close friends and family. I've never been more sure of something in my entire life. After it sank in that we were really doing this, it was like a gigantic weight was lifted off my shoulders. 

Part of me worries that someday I'll look back and wish I would have had a big wedding... but so many people I've talked to say they wish they would have eloped. I'm just trusting that I will look back and remember August 11th, 2012 as a day completely and utterly about us as a couple :]


  1. I think that's a really awesome idea. I'd think having just the people closest to you both there would make it an even more special event. And like the other people said if you end up wanting a bigger wedding you guys can just have a vow renewal. I'd say it's a win-win situation. Hah. 

  2. Good for you!
     I had a wedding with all the hoopla and rigamarole that goes with it and I'm glad I did. The only thing I wished we'd done differently is to have the reception the day after. I was too tired to properly enjoy having all my friends and family around.

  3. You're a very smart young woman.  If your heart is saying this, it is absolutely the right decision.  I like what Jess said too.  Never a regret, just plan a new party!


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